Effective Communication With NLP & The Enneagram

The Type Two is also commonly known as the helper. They have a very strong tendency to put the needs of others before themselves, and this might be due to the fact that they have a need to feel needed or wanted. Twos generally enjoy the feeling of being indispensable. Of course, this need can result in healthy or unhealthy attributes.

Type Twos are feeling based people, and they generally over express their feelings. What this means is that they are more open with their feelings as compared to the other types in the feeling triads, and the openness of feelings can be seen in the way they would reach out to help people. They have a compliant energy as well, complying with their ideals of helping people, and being selfless and loving.

They see themselves as being helpful, thoughtful and approachable, though sometimes, they may irritate others when they try too hard to help, coming across as being too nosey. You can usually count on a Type Two to be supportive and contribute without complain.

However, it is important to show appreciation whenever you receive help from them. Type Twos have a tendency to feel that they will only receive after they give and deep down, many of them give so much because they look forward to the receiving. A simple thank you to show appreciation is usually enough to keep them happy.

Do you think you are a Type Two? Or do you already know that you are a Type Two? What do you think about the accuracy of this short description?

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The Type One is commonly known as the perfectionist. Being a perfectionist, Type Ones have a need to do things right. For them, everything is clear. It is either right, or wrong. Black or white. They would almost never accept anything in the middle, which is why they seldom praise or commend people until the job is finished, and done well.

Type Ones are very instinct driven, though they have an under expressed aggression in them. What this means is that they have a lot of suppressed anger. They feel angry at things, yet they choose not to show their anger. It could be due to their ideals that being angry is wrong, so they rather not show their anger.

Type Ones have a very compliant energy. They are compliant towards their ideals, which usually refer to the need to do things right. As a result, they tend to view themselves as rational and principled.

They also find it easy to pay attention to details, which may or may not be a good thing because it often results in them taking things too seriously. Because of their beliefs that there is usually only one correct way of doing things, it could result in conflicts because they simply refuse to relax until things are done well, while their peers may be willing to accept something lesser.

Thus, you could hear a Type One say things like, “I’m my own worst critic”, because they often are. The pressure that they place on themselves may propel them to achieve great things. However, if they are unable to handle the pressure they place on themselves, they may transfer it to the surrounding, becoming critical towards others instead.

Do you think you are a Type One? Or do you already know that you are a Type One? What do you think about the accuracy of this short description?

It’s time to talk about the Enneagram again. From the diagram above, we see how the nine types are differentiated into their various groups, based on the triads, and energy levels. Let’s understand the triads first. As you can see here, the nine types are divided into three groups based on Instinct, Feeling and Thinking.

What this means is that personality types Eight, Nine, and One are more instinct driven. They use a lot of their instincts, or referential experience in their behaviour. This group also have an issue with aggression, or anger.

Personality types Two, Three and Four are feeling based people. They use a lot of their feelings, and this group have an issue with shame, or the way people look at them. Personality types Five, Six and Seven are the thinking group. So unlike the feeling group, they are more thinking based, and have an issue with fear.

The energy categories are slightly different. Types One, Two and Six belong to the compliant energy group. These three types are very compliant to their ideals in life. Types Three, Seven and Eight have an assertive and outgoing energy, while types Four, Five and Nine have withdrawn energy.

With this knowledge, you can profile people through elimination. The Enneagram is one personality profiling system that allows you to profile someone without the use of a questionnaire. Of course, you’ll need to know more about the different personality type, so stay tuned to this blog!

Although eye movements and usage of words are the more common ways of accessing a person’s Representational Systems, there are other accessing cues as well. The way we think will always show up somewhere in our behaviour.

For example, a visual person who is constructing images as they talk will then to speak faster and possibly at a higher pitch. This allows them to keep up with the images in their brain. In addition, their breathing will be more shallow, and their muscles will be more tensed.

Auditory people who think in sounds breathe more evenly over the chest area, unlike visuals who breathe higher up in their chests. Their tonality is often clear and expressive. Usually, their heads will be well balanced on the shoulders or tilted slightly, as if they are listening to something.

A feeling or kinesthetic person will breathe low in their stomach area, and have more relaxed muscles. Their heads tend to tilt down and their tonality is deeper, with pauses in their slightly slower speech. Those who talk to themselves are also likely to look down. Sometimes, they may lean their head on a side using their hands. For some, they even repeat what they just hear to themselves, so you might spot a bit of lip moving.

Of course, this is a general description of how other parts of our body will react according to the way we think. When you are observing others, it is always good to be flexible since we are not produced from a factory assembly line.