Effective Communication With NLP & The Enneagram

I was having a drink with my friends recently and we kinda stumbled upon the topic of conversational differences between men and women. Here’s an interesting video illustrating the difference between how the two genders communicate.

The gist of it is that men prefer to go straight to the point. If nothing big happened, then there’s nothing worth mentioning. Women, on the other hand, do not require a major event to create a talking point. Of course, this is pretty much a generalisation and do not accurately reflect the communication style of every single man and woman out there.

Take a look at the video and let me know if you agree with it =)

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Here’s a pretty good video explaining how NLP can be relevant in our everyday communication. It focuses on how a same string of words can be interpreted differently by everyone. The speaker thus emphasises that it is important to clearly relate your intention to the other party and ensure that the meaning that is being received is exactly what you want to convey.

Twitter seems to be making huge waves on the impact of Online communication these days. Everywhere I go, it seems like everyone is Tweeting, where you post short messages of not more than 140 characters.

This micro blogging phenomenon is slowly gaining momentum in Singapore also. In the Singapore newspapers, there’s at least an article on Twitter every week. Are you on Twitter already?

I’ve included a short video from the Wall Street Journal digital network, where they interview some folks on their usage of Twitter.

Here’s an interesting video on Negotiation techniques. Negotiation is something that many of us find difficult for various reasons. Some may be shy in asking for more benefits, some feel that they have to give more before they can ask for something in return, some are plain dominant and just want something without giving, and so on.

In this video, the speaker emphasises that dialogue is key in establishing a balance between relationship and results. We want results and maintain relationship at the same time. So the way we communicate what we want, and what we can offer, is crucial. Check out the part where they discuss about the various ways to phrase your sentences during a negotiation process.

Found this video on youtube when I wanted to show examples of the way Barack Obama communicates during his election campaign. No politics involved here, just a short interview with T.J Walker (who advises executives on effective speaking) on the communication lessons managers can take away from President-elect Barack Obama’s win.